Discovery and Life in a Big Family
The Wally and Norene Newton Family |
People often ask me what it was like to grow up in a large family. It's a curious question because I really never knew what it would be like to grow up in a small family. I usually respond that once you got over six children you were a big family. I reasoned that once you surpass six children, the older children will help with the younger children. There is a natural redistribution of chores and responsibilities where children perform some tasks that parents typically would.
Sometimes this results in parentification. By parentification I refer to a situation where a child does something because a parent can't or won't. Parentification does not result because children are given responsibilities that otherwise a parent would normally do as long as the child and parent both understand that it is the parent's responsibility to see that it is being done.
Kids can do really amazing things |
e child who demonstrates a new mathematical theorem or the girl who applies a complex scientific process to make a new and exciting discovery.
I don't know that I have ever heard anyone say, in response to those reports, that those poor children are somehow mistreated because they are losing their childhood and immersed in adult activities.
In fact the plasticity of learning and development is so rich in children that it is imperative that they have the opportunity to do adult things even at young ages. But when this occurs, proper supervision and boundaries are necessary. As a young boy I know that my older brothers and sisters did a lot of my raising. My brothers taught me how to ride a bike, walk on stilts, play baseball and so much more.
Yellow lights remind me of my dad |
So life in a big family simply provides the opportunity for living. Not always rich in amenities but certainly abounding in experience. And for me, always worth it.
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