Life Partners?
How do you choose a life partner? You don't. Anyone who suggests you can select a good mate by avoiding selfish, irrational, or needy parters is at best oversimplifying and at worst lying. The closest I can come isn't even a formula. Happiness in life partnerships and marriage flows from a balance of having an idea in mind, working as hard as you can to achieve that goal, finding joy while you work on that goal, and realizing complete satisfaction whether it turned out as imagined or completely different. Happiness in marriage demands more than loving the person, you have to love the relationship. My experience suggests that it is easier to fall in love with someone than it is to fall in love with marriage. I didn't always love marriage and that is why I dated. That process of dating led me to to an emotional place that cemented my conviction in the purpose and benefits of marriage. One key factor in my willingness to get married was based in my own conviction that mar...